5 Tips to Keep a Marriage Exciting

The period leading up to your wedding ceremony is an extremely exciting time; making last minute changes and arrangements, designing an ideal plan for your future happiness as a couple.  But eventually the honeymoon must end, and real life as a spouse begins.  And while it may be true that you have the most wonderful spouse and marriage relationship, it is also a fact that even the best couples are certain to find married life to sometimes be testing, or should we just say, less than the exciting promise it held initially. 

Let’s face it, you love your spouse, but spending a whole day with the same person does get somewhat stifling, and if you are not mindful of the fact, it can put a strain on your relationship and make you both feel frustrated with what is actually a very loving and healthy relationship. 

The end result - it is vitally important for most couples to not simply sit back in the belief that marriage they are in marriage nirvana which will last forever. Rather, couples should make sure they take some basic steps to infuse their relationships with a bit of excitement, as outlined below.

1. Have Individual Interests - Try as you may, you will not have anything interesting or stimulating to say to your spouse if you spend all of your time doing the same activities.  Having individual interests is not a sign of weakness in a relationship, as many newly married people believe, but rather a sign of its vitality and strength.  Having independent interests means that you are unique and have something new to contribute to conversations, ensuring that you and your spouse always have something new, interesting, and often exciting, to talk about.

2. Keep Being Spontaneous - While you were still dating, being spontaneous seemed to be somewhat innate.  But, as one grows more comfortable in one's relationship, becomes more absorbed with life’s many obligations and patterns, one has a tendency to rely too much on the strength of one's relationships and in the process, one easily fails to keep things spontaneous within the relationship. In order to keep things spontaneous, try to mix things up by planning a novel afternoon or evening event.  Try booking tickets for a show your spouse has been wanting to see, or visit some new restaurant nearby.

3. Never Threat With Separation - This is bit less of a rule to keep things exciting, and more one to keep the relationship sound.  A relationship only grows and can only stay exciting if both parties are equally assured in their commitment to and from the other.  It is crucial to  make it a rule between you and your spouse that neither ever threatens with separation or divorce.  Rather agree to establish a common understanding that if anyone threatens separation, they should also at the same time be heading out of the door to back up their talk.  It might seem like a harsh rule, but its requires imposition if your relationship is going to survive the many ups and downs which are bound to form part of any marriage.

4. Weekend Trips - Another tried and trusted way to keep the romance into your marriage is to go on vacation with only your spouse. However, with the strains of everyday life and the inevitably costs of such trips, a regular full-blown holiday can seem hard to justify financially. Do not let that put you down, as you could opt for some one night local breakaways. Plan a special dinner and nice evening out, and round it off with a one-night stay in a hotel.  The expense is then relatively small, considering the level of excitement generated by the trip, no matter how small, which has been brought into the relationship.

5. Spice Up The Bedroom - A final tip to create excitement into any marriage is to add a bit of spice in the bedroom.  One's sex life has a strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction of your relationship with your partner. So do not be shy to try exploring some new positions, sexual fantasies, or adult toys with your spouse. In doing so, share something intimate with your spouse and bring some excitement into your marriage in this way.